As parents, we sometimes forget how confusing, frustrating and difficult middle school can be, and for some kids, math is especially confusing, frustrating and difficult. Being a middle school math teacher, I hear from many parents who want to help their children but are not sure how. Whether you identify with Betty*, a mother who helps her son too much because she’s eager for him to get good grades or Maurice*, a dad who does not know how to help his daughter because he “does not understand the math” himself, every parent can benefit from these tips for supporting children who struggle with middle school math.
Before you can help your child, it is important to understand what is happening (mathematically) to the adolescent brain. Middle school is an exciting time; adolescents’ brains are transitioning from reasoning in a concrete manner to understanding abstract concepts and ideas. According to the National Council of Teachers of Mathematics, middle school math typically begins with concepts such as fractions and decimals, and by the time students’ move on to high school, they have learned pre-algebra concepts, such as manipulating variables and solving or writing equations to find unknown values. Keep in mind that this is particularly hard for students stuck in a concrete state of mind; they tend to rely on memorizing steps or procedures to solve problems, which can lead to more difficulties later on.
Here are some useful tips on how you support your child in math:
The most important thing to convey to your children is not to give up. Mathematical concepts are intricate and take time to fully grasp. Encouragement and patience go a long way. Read a book with your child while she works on homework or finish a Sudoku or crossword puzzle with her at the table while she students to keep her company. Sometimes just being in the same room and working on your own mind-stimulating puzzles might make them more comfortable with difficult homework. If your child continues to struggle and you are becoming concerned, speak with myself.
Here are some tangible things that you can do to help your child with math-related areas:
Before you can help your child, it is important to understand what is happening (mathematically) to the adolescent brain. Middle school is an exciting time; adolescents’ brains are transitioning from reasoning in a concrete manner to understanding abstract concepts and ideas. According to the National Council of Teachers of Mathematics, middle school math typically begins with concepts such as fractions and decimals, and by the time students’ move on to high school, they have learned pre-algebra concepts, such as manipulating variables and solving or writing equations to find unknown values. Keep in mind that this is particularly hard for students stuck in a concrete state of mind; they tend to rely on memorizing steps or procedures to solve problems, which can lead to more difficulties later on.
Here are some useful tips on how you support your child in math:
- Always have notes from class, a textbook or other resources right next to a homework paper. If your child gets stuck, she is likely to find a similar problem in one of these resources that can help him/her move forward.
- Ensure the student takes responsibility for his/her own learning by finding assistance independently; the ability to access help on your own is essential for student success in all areas of academics.
- Never give children the answers to problems!! By giving away answers you’re depriving your child of the chance to develop the mental processes required to learn a new concept. No parent including myself enjoys seeing their child struggle, but providing answers could set them up for frustration when they have to tackle more difficult problems and might even stunt their progress as classmates move to more advanced lessons. Furthermore, your child’s teacher will not be able to address the misconceptions or areas of weakness that should be targeted in school if homework assignments do not reflect the student’s level of understanding.
- Encourage your child to underline or highlight key words or phrases in situational problems, as these often help students set up a solution.
- Realize that your child may struggle with abstract concepts if his or her brain is not quite ready to reason at an abstract level. Your child’s brain will mature in time, and success in math class is likely to accompany this development.
- If your child is frustrated by mathematics, show him to focus on concept rather than procedural knowledge. This might help some students approach and solve problems in a different way-one that makes more sense to them. For instance, ask your child to explain one problem in their assignment each night. If possible, choose one that incorporates both words and computation. If you find that your child is simply reciting step-by-step instructions, encourage him/her to elaborate by asking questions focusing on the “why” of the problem.
- After your child has completed an assignment, ask him/her to share what she believes was the most important idea of the problem.
The most important thing to convey to your children is not to give up. Mathematical concepts are intricate and take time to fully grasp. Encouragement and patience go a long way. Read a book with your child while she works on homework or finish a Sudoku or crossword puzzle with her at the table while she students to keep her company. Sometimes just being in the same room and working on your own mind-stimulating puzzles might make them more comfortable with difficult homework. If your child continues to struggle and you are becoming concerned, speak with myself.
Here are some tangible things that you can do to help your child with math-related areas:
- Practice multiplication and division facts with your student while riding in the car.
- Estimate prices and total costs in the grocery store.
- Discuss angles and geometric shapes found in your home.
- Encourage your student to help cook, using measuring spoons and cups.
- Talk about how to change recipes for bigger or smaller amounts.
- Get your student to explain various graphs shown in the newspaper.
- Discuss commercials that use data to support buying their product. Ask your student to explain why a commercial or advertisement might be misleading.
- Play games that involve cards, spinners, or guessing / logic.
- Play Battleship to simulate working with graphs and patterns.
- Ask your student to plan a trip or use a map to navigate to your next trip around town. Let them mark your route with a highlighter and estimate the distance. See how close they get to the real mileage.